The act of placing someone at fault can often be a defense mechanism utilized in an effort to help us deal with impermanence.  We place the blame on a person because in a seemingly unpredictable world we need to feel grounded, we need to know that someone was behind it.  It can be most damaging when this fault is put on one's own shoulders by finite people, decreasing self worth for no reason other than a collective discomfort with change.

With an infinite consciousness we see that no one is to blame.  As close as we may come to matching the rhythm of the universal drummer, the beat will always unexpectedly change and we must do so with it.  Relationships may atrophy, mistakes may be made, and human shortcomings may enter the picture, but if we realize that nature has a plan we can stop struggling and let this happen, no pointing fingers necessary.  The impermanence will no longer be permitted to distort our finite reality, only support the evolution of our infinite reality.